Sunday, December 10, 2017
Sunday, November 26, 2017
"I am the master of my fate,
I am the captain of my soul"
Beautiful and empowering lines by the great Nelson Mandela. These lines from a poem helped him stay positive and focused in spite of being in jail for 27 years.
Have you noticed that sometimes we shy away from taking certain steps, be it taking on an adventure, grabbing an opportunity to speak in public or something simple like taking up additional responsibilities at home or work.
Why do you think we do it, despite of wanting to go ahead with it? what is it that paralysis us to take action?
This and many such reflections were a part of my Personal Excellence Journey.
What PE has made me reflect on:
1. "Whether you think you can or think you cant, you are right." - Henry Ford.
What we believe in, becomes true because that is where we focus.
2. I never thought about my inner self, what motivates me, inspires me, how I can harness the forces of nature to work in favor of me!
What PE has taught me:
1. There is a vast reservoir of energy within us in the form of our subconscious mind. It is like a faithful follower. It can be given right instructions so that it helps us to be our best selves.
2. To laugh often and laugh much. To keep the child inside me blossoming and joyful. The amazing laughter club gurus left us holding our stomach and cheeks aching (for having smiled so much after such a long time)
Smile is infectious, you catch it like the flu,
When someone smiled at me today,
I started smiling too.
I passed around the corner
and someone saw my grin.
When he smiled I realized
I'd passed it on to him.
I thought about that smile,
then I realized its worth.
A single smile, just like mine
could travel round the earth.
So, if you feel a smile begin,
don't leave it undetected.
Let's start an epidemic quick,
and get the world infected!
3. Accepting myself fully, completely. I am enough! By accepting I let go of the expectations from myself and others. And then I can choose to act in a certain way, unbounded by the burden of expectations.
How I plan to excel in everything I do:
1. How you do one thing, is how you do everything: I will try to be mindful of my actions and thoughts. Bringing in awareness towards my thoughts an actions is the first step in correcting them so that they help me achieve the larger purpose of my life.
2. Forming my circle of inspiration in the form of people who inspire me, great works of literature, poems, songs. This will help me to remain motivated and inspired in every moment of life.
3. Being a warrior and not getting bogged down by the mundane activities. Trying to find value in every task. Having an empowered mindset rather than a victim mindset.
4. Having positive beliefs and thinking positive thoughts. Whatever we are is a function of our self belief.
As rightly said by Mahatma Gandhi,
" Your beliefs become your thoughts,
your thoughts become your words,
your words become your actions,
your actions become your habits,
your habits become your values,
your values become your destiny"
5. Practicing willpower muscle. Yes you read it right, will power is a muscle that can be developed like other muscles that we work on in gym.
6. Living in the present moment. Using all the 5 senses for experiencing something to create a strong bond of love and attention.
Finally quoting again from my favorite, Mandela
" You have a limited time to stay on Earth. You must try and use that period for the purpose of transforming your country (starting from you) into what you desire it to be."
I am very fortunate to have gotten this chance of being on the Personal Excellence journey. Now after having attended 2 levels of the amazing Personnel Excellence program, I feel like a different person altogether from before I went to PE!
I don't have enough words to thank TCS, Nidhi Raina, Ritu Mam and the amazing PE team for making this transformational journey possible for so many of us!
Last but not the least, I have learnt to love myself unconditionally! :)
Monday, November 13, 2017
Wednesday, October 18, 2017
Wish you a very happy Diwali again! Do you remember a painting of mine which took 4 years to complete!! I am sure you dont :) You can check it out here.
And can you believe I completed this painting just in 3 sittings! Right from the inception of the idea to final completion in just 3 days :)
Actually we had a little slot on top of the safety door, I wanted to fill it with something beautiful and that too before Diwali! I used my daughters old canvas for this. Painted with acrylic paints. Drew the Ganeshji image with hands. Later outlined the border and outlines with 3D outliners. Adorned Ganeshji's necklace with colorful stones.
Very happy with the result. Do let me know how you liked our little creation ( Yes little miss had definitely contributed in the painting in her own way, sometimes painting the bells, background and sometimes bugging me ...haha :))
This is where I started!
Tuesday, October 17, 2017
Wish you a very happy Diwali!
This month I am participating in blogging marathon after a long time.
Sharing a very yummy appetizer today. It comes from Gujrati cusine, but it is loved by all in India and out of.
Kids especially love this since it is not too spicy but very tasty it is :). The texture of khandvi is very soft and silky. Preparing it perfectly is a bit tricky, I am not there yet, but trying :)
1 cup besan (bengal gram flour)
1 cup curds (dahi)
a pinch of asafoetida (hing)
1/2 teaspoon drops of lemon juice
1/4 tsp turmeric powder (haldi)
2 tsp fresh grated ginger
green chilli paste (optional - I did not use since I was making for kids)
salt to taste
oil for greasing
2 tsp oil
1 tsp mustard seeds ( rai / sarson)
1 tsp sesame seeds (til)
1/4 tsp asafoetida (hing)
2 green chillies split vertically
For The Garnish
2 tbsp freshly grated coconut (optional)
2 tbsp finely chopped coriander (dhania)
Grease 3 thalis (10” diameter each) with oil on both the sides and keep aside.
Combine the curds and 1½ cups of water in a deep bowl, mix well and keep aside.
Combine the besan, curds-water mixture, asafoetida, lemon juice, turmeric powder, ginger-green chilli paste and salt in a deep non-stick pan and mix well using a whisk till no lumps remain to make a smooth mixture.
Switch on the flame and cook on a slow flame for 9 minutes, while stirring continuously or till it thickens.
Spread a spoonful of the batter on a greased thali, wait for a few seconds and try to roll it up. If it doesn’t roll then cook for 1 more minute and then check once more if it gets rolled perfectly.
While it is still hot, pour little portions of the mixture on the insides of 3 greased thalis and spread the mixture in a circular motion into a thin layer using a vati.
Turn all the 3 thalis and spread the remaining mixture on their back side in the similar matter as step 6.
Allow them to cool for 5 to 10 minutes and roll them up tightly.
Cut each roll into 6 equal pieces and keep aside.
For the tempering, heat the oil in a small non-stick pan and add the mustard seeds.
When the seeds crackle, add the sesame seeds, asafoetida and sauté on a medium flame for a few seconds.
Pour the tempering over the khandvis.
Garnish with coconut and coriander and serve.
Monday, October 9, 2017
So we made this using simple yellow card stock. For the front we made a pattern paper diya and decorated with rhinestones.
Made a step pop up inside. Decorated the steps with small diyas. Do let me know how you liked out card..
Happy Diwali :)
Thursday, September 14, 2017
Yelling less? Well I do want to... But every time it happens I forget everything :(
I just feel like crying right now.. Coz it frustrates me..It makes me angry. .to not be in control of my emotions..Sometimes I doubt myself if I can ever do it.
Daily I think I will reset my counter and start with day 1 tomorrow, but then...
But I want to really thank you my friends out there for your support and encouraging words on this initiative of mine.
And I know myself. I Can't give up. I think I have certain take away which I should keep in mind to be able to do it.
1. Little miss is a free spirit and does things at her own sweet pace. I get irritated when she does not do things quickly. Today at one step after telling her repeatedly, I started counting. She assumed when mamma is counting she has to finish the task before I reach a count of 5. And it was indeed done. The thing is for me to start counting if I feel I am going to lose my mind.... More for me than for her!
2. Repeating positive assertions
Life is good ! I am blessed to have such a lovely family and friends. I have everything that I need. I am happy! I am healthy! My family is happy! We are healthy and love each other.
3. Expect less. Yes that is the key. Because it leads to frustration when the expectation is not met by someone. I also dont want to take out someone else anger on my little child. Dont want to scare her (I know I do that :( )
4. Choosing Love! Yes Choosing to be a loving and caring person for my family today and everyday.
5. Being thankful. Gratitude helps us to realize how lucky we are. It keeps us grounded and makes us more appreciative of others.
So I will try to keep these things in mind and give "Yelling Less" again a try!
I know your wishes are with me :)
Tuesday, September 12, 2017
Yesterday evening I started my journey to be a better parent to my child. To scold less and love more... As I made the declaration for yelling less and headed home.. I was full of positivity and hope.
When I reached home S had gone for a friend's birthday party.. Could not wait for her to come back and give me a hug!
She was super excited about the fitbit like watch that she got in return!
Then came the tough part.. Meal time. As I mentioned in my previous post.. We both have started eating without screen sitting down on a mat... So I asked s to lay the mat out.. I asked and asked.. Then had to raise a little voice.. Reminding myself not to yell!
There were different triggers like I have to always remind her to drink water. It was not a yelling free evening. But I was aware and conscious. Totally appreciative of the people who can pull it off.. Hats off to them.. Coz it is no easy thing. Requires lot of patience and creativity. Creativity in the tactics of getting things done without yelling.
Thinking that my day one will be tomorrow :)
So the morning started with a grumpy kiddo... Complaining headache... Teeth ache... Stomach ache...!
But patient I was.. After all I have to take care of my sick baby.
With almost every one falling sick at home.. We are just treading right now...
Then it happened.. I gave S a small piece of apple to eat. She rarely eats fruits, am trying forcing her to atleast try little bit. So after around 20 minutes she ate only 2 bites out of it. I felt angry, sad, shouted a little and then moved on. Will have to keep trying to make her eat fruits.
I think kids are great in teaching us patience by practicing it!
It was a OK day overall. Have to be bit more consistent about not yelling aka shouting
I could take it no more, since this had started affecting her eye sight and also her behaviour . I decided that this needs to stop!
So some two weeks back I told her that from now onwards we are not watching phone, tv tablet or anything while eating. I was really mad at her. She said ok mama, but with pure innocence she said "How?" . I was like I am so mad at her and still she is asking me how! Yes I can be irrational sometimes. But when I cooled down, I understood her question. Because if we go back to our same setup of having meal (sitting in front of tv on sofa, since I am watching tv while eating and simultaneously feeding ) she will definitely ask for phone!
So I decided, we will have dinner, lunch in our room, we will not sit on sofa, instead I took out my yoga mat and told her we both will sit down here and eat. Normally I will serve one plate for both of us, since I am feeding her. But I really want her to start eating on her own and be independent, hence I served two separate plates. We sat on the mat and I told how she can feed herself.
It wasnt easy, I can tell you!
She does not understand how she can take a chapati bite along with the dry sabji and dip it in daal, so we started with basics. Next she would get bored of eating in absence of a distraction, so will not eat much. I have to coax or threaten her sometimes to eat a little bit more. Then sometimes tiredness or sleep would creep in, and she would be so dull while chewing, god give me the patience to handle it..we are not there yet ...but on the way..wish us luck friends!
I am really impressed and have been reading all posts from a fellow blogger Shailaja on how she took up the challege of yelling less at her daughter. I can so much relate to her struggle, triumphs, angst..it has motivated me to embark on a journey myself. So friends I would try to yell less on my daughter for the next week.. Thanks Shailaja..love
image source: google
Tuesday, September 5, 2017
Hi Friends..Hope you are enjoying the festival seasons if in India. These are the times when most of us are busy with celebrations in India :)
Prepared these cute cards along with missy for her teachers.
Little S is very fond of pop up cards now a days..actually even myself!
So we decided to make not 1-2 but 6 of these cards! I know it was asking for a little too much. We prepared the basic structure for all 6 of them. But last night I could take out time only at 11 PM to actually make the cards. So I convinced her that at the moment we can only prepare two, and will do rest later.
I took some printouts for the quotes and some images of a little girl, books, pencil and ruler. Little miss was very happy to color the images for her teachers.
Then we adhered the patter paper and all the little cutouts to our cards. Loved the result!! Do let me know how you liked our little cards for teachers day . Thanks !
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